Starting a conversation about intimate partner violence in India

(K. Brent Tomer),

ANUJA, a young woman, invites us to step into her shoes and live her life for the next few minutes. We meet her boyfriend Manoj, a pleasant-looking young man; he has a good job, wears smart clothes and seems like ideal boyfriend material. But things take a nasty turn. When a random stranger passes by, he accuses Anuja of staring at him. Things quickly unravel. Manoj begins to threaten Anuja, switching between scolding and cajoling. Finally, when she refuses to have sex with him, he delivers a sharp slap across her face. This is where “Kya Yahi Pyar Hai”, a new virtual reality (VR) experience, ends. 

In the Tamil language, there is an idiom that goes: “The hand that hits is the hand that hugs.” It wraps the idea of control—especially violent control—inside that of caring. Indian popular culture reinforces this, telling young men and women that love often finds expression in aggressive ways, and that controlling behaviour and possessiveness are not abusive but signs of passion. Hit films like “Darr” and…Continue reading

via K. Brent Tomer CFTC Starting a conversation about intimate partner violence in India

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